How Can You NOT Be Yourself?


“Love is the total absence of fear. Love asks no questions. Its natural state is one of extension and expansion, not comparison and measurement.”
— Gerald G. Jampolsky

Can I be me?

And can you be you?

Two very simple questions. Two questions that can be answered with a ‘yes’ a ‘no’ or ‘sometimes’. Two questions that can change the world, or – at the very least – my world and your world.

Two questions that really reduce to one: can I be me?

Or, can I be myself?

Can. I. Be. Myself. Question mark.

Which kinda prompts an immediate, and important retort: How can you NOT be yourself?

How can I not be me? How can you not be you? How is that possible?

How can you NOT be yourself?

Well, I’m going to do that infurating thing and answer a question with more questions:

  • How can you not be present?
  • Where do you go when you’re not here?
  • How can you NOT show up?

Or how about these questions,

  • How can you not shine your light?
  • Where do you hide when you hide?
  • What is it that you hold back when you hold back?

How can you NOT be yourself?

Seriously, how is that possible? I’m not going to answer this question for you, even though I think I know the answer. I’d like you to answer it for yourself.

How can you NOT be yourself?

Can you think of a time when you relished being you, for example? A time when who you were was enough. A celebration of you being you, maybe.

Or how about a time when you weren’t you. When you pretended to be someone else, or to like something you didn’t like, when you tried to impress.

Are you always you? (Are you sure?)

And who are you when you’re not you? (A fascimile thereof, perhaps.)

How can you not be yourself?

Who are you when you’re not being yourself? Are you me? Or someone else? Who?

How can you not be yourself?

Is it when you’re people pleasing, comparing yourself to others or wanting to control?

Does it happen when you stop listening, trusting and connecting with yourself?

How can you be loving one moment and fearful the next? How can your curiosity for life change? How can you any less creative in any given moment?

I’m being curious here, by the way. Seriously, I’d like to know the answers to these questions too.

How can you not be yourself?

Is it closing down rather than opening up?

Does it happen when not being wrong is more important than not being you?

Is it an artist that doesn’t draw?

A singer that doesn’t sing?

A writer that doesn’t write?

What is it, exactly, when you stop being you?

And maybe you not being you IS being you. How about that, as a possibility? Maybe it’s simply impossible for you to NOT be you?

Maybe it’s impossible for you NOT to be love.

Maybe it’s impossible for you NOT to shine your light.

Maybe it’s impossible for you NOT to be fully present.

Maybe, as Jon Kabat-Zinn would have it, wherever you go there you are. And whoever you’re being you’re being yourself. However you show up it’s still you.


I’m just the loving, curious questioner here. Telling you how I see it. Wanting to make a difference the only way I know how.

I’m just writing a book, one page at a time, based on the simple premise that you I could be me and you could be you MORE. And doing so, naturally because it makes sense, WILL change the world!

But I could be wrong. I could be writing a book about a problem that doesn’t even exist. Could be spending 90 minutes a day doing something that doesn’t need to be done.


But I’d still be me being me, either way, wouldn’t I?

Hah! I sense a rabbit hole approaching. Let’s arm ourselves with a few more questions, then, and let’s down we go…

How alive are you? How far ON are you dialled? How much joy comes through you?…

[??? more coming soon??? ]

How can you not be yourself?

I wonder.


Agree with what I’ve shared here? Disagree? Still got questions? Then please leave a comment. ????