What Do You Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?

When you come to a fork in the road, take it.
– Yogi Berra

You get stuck sometimes. Either there’s something important you need to do but there’s other things that need to be done, too. Or nothing actually seems important to do. Or there are just too many things to do.

You can call it a temporary confusion. An irresistible inertia. Or you can simply call it overwhelm. (Or call it not knowing what words to write next!) You get stuck sometimes, you get stuck.

What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

Quick, unhelpful-but-true, answer: you do nothing, but you do something.

Hmm, funnily enough this familiar to us all feeling comes from a simple misunderstanding: that there is a right way to turn next, that one form of action is going to be a better form than another.

And so the stuck place comes when this next ‘right move’ becomes unclear to you, so unclear that you literally can’t do anything for fear it might not be the best thing to do.

The remedy?

Do something, anything. And keep doing so until. Until it’s time to stop doing. Or until it becomes clearer what to do next.

And it will always become clearer, it always does.

Call it inner knowing. Call it clarity. Call it irresistible inspiration. The fog always clears in the end, always.

And all because you did something, took a next step, even if that next step was to stop and rest.

You get stuck sometimes.

Allow yourself to not know what to do, to not know what’s best – because you don’t, remember – but do something, say something, write something! (As I did with this particular chapter.)

The real problem here is not that you don’t know what to do next.

  • The real problem is that you think you need to know this before you do something, anything.
  • The real problem is that you’re comparing this moment to a better one you’ve imagined.
  • The real problem is that you are not always okay with your experience of yourself

Thinking and planning is useful, of course. But the misuse of thinking, the misuse of planning, is the scourge of modern, westernised human existence.

The same goes for the misuse of comparing one moment with another, of comparing me with you, or you with you.

It is okay to be not okay with yourself. Just as long as you realise that is all that’s going on. Nothing else is happening; it means nothing else.

You get stuck sometimes. Because you think you know what’s best for you. And you don’t. You just think you do.

Overwhelm, confusion, and ‘paralysis’ is merely nature’s kindly (polite, but firm) way of saying, “Stop it!”

You get stuck sometimes.



Agree with what I’ve shared here? Disagree? Still got questions? Then please leave a comment. 🙂